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Dorothy Ricker Answers Teen Age Problems Girl Without Restrictions Wants Parents to 'Care' Dear Mrs. Ricker: • This letter may seem strange to you, coming from a 17-year- old girl. You see, I have my own car and 1 have recei ved Social Security payments for quite a while because my fath- er passed away when I w a s quite small. 1 have a step-father and a INSURANCE? * AUTO • FIRE • LIFE INSURE TODAY The Ted Kot Way Ted Kot Agency 49 Main St. 769-2731 Mobilhea t The Fuel Oil : For Easy Heating Cleans Your Oil Burner As It Heats Your Home . Use Our ' Balanced middle-aged mother. I no curfew and for a while I thought this was great and my friends said, \I had it made\! I have even stayed out un t i 1 4 a.m. with no questions asked. The trouble is my friends' par- ents care enough about them to discipline them, mine don't. How can I let my paren t s know I want them to care? Please give me some advice. TOO MANY PRIVILEOES Dear \Too Many Privileges\: Your situation is rather unus- ual although I have recei ved similar letters from other girls. Occasionally I have also found this kind of situation in my work with local teen-agers. Some parents mistakenly be- lieve they are doing the right thing when they let their youngsters do as they please, and some really don't care what they do. Teens may ar- gue and complain bitterly about rules but the truth of the mat- ter is; ALL of them really want parental discipline as long as it is fair and reasonable. Because of their youth and inexperience most teen-agers are almost sure to get out of line at times to some degree and they need the assurance that their parents care enough, arid are wise enough, to help them get back on the right track. At 17, you are a young adult and it is doubtful that your par- ents will suddenly change their attitude afeteut giving you too many privileges. However, you are old enough to know right from wrong so my advice is to act with maturity and wisdom and discipline yourself. Best Wishes! DON AT McKANE S. Racquette Rd., 769-3121 Interest on Savings Accounts Relax and enjoy yourself with that money in the bank feeling. Systematic savings is the answer. FIRST NATIONAL : BANK NORFOLK, N.Y. have | to date at all. It might make teen-age boy who reads it Pear Mrs. Ricker: I am 14 and my problem is about a girl named Bonn i e . She comes to visit her grand- mother who lives close to me. The trouble is Bonnie turns on the kind of charm that makes my boy friend, Ron, flip! When she leaves • he always com e s back to me and, like a fool, I let him get away with it. This has happened three times. Next month Bonnie .will be staying with her grandmother for two whole weeks! How can I keep Ron from seeing her? She is a walking, talking image of Zsa Zsa Gaborand I mean she's '\ got EVERYTHIN G . Please don't advise me to drop\ Ron. CHRISSY Dear Chrissy: You cannot keep Ron under lock and key during the two weeks Bonnie will be visiting her grandmother. So if he flips for her again there are three things you can do besides drop- ping him. 1. Put up with it and be a\ sap, • • 2. Turn on your own \kind of charm\ and give Bonnie some competition. 3. While Ron is flipping over her,' date other boys. Needless fo say, I recommend (since you are only 14) dating other boys anyway - if you are allow e d >••• Splurge a little, and save a lot of money, too! ,4-Pc. COFFEE SET reg. $35 value *only Offer ends Dec. 31, 1967 with your purchase of a 48-piece service for 8 1847 ROGERS Br n S.* , America's Finest Silverplate IS The International Silver Company SLAVINS JEWELRY DEPT. Cor. Main & Water Sts. Ron wake up and appreciate you more if he finds out you are not always too available. Silent Treatment Might Awaken Obnoxious Teen Dear Mrs. Ricker: I am a 14-year-old girl and I would like to have your advice as to how to deal with a 13- year-old neighbor girl. We ride the same bus skating rink to the every roll e r Friday night. She tries to make trou- ble for everyone and especially for me. My best girl friend goes with this girl's 18-year-old broth e r. She lies and makes trouble for them, too. When she doesn't get her way she threatens to make more trouble. She says hateful things about me 1 o u d enough for me to hear and she also lies to her parents. In short, she makes life mis- erable for the rest of us. I've tried ignoring her and telling her off, but neither work e d . Please publish my letter, may- be her parents will recogni z e their daughter. - DALE Dear Dale: I don't know how many peo- ple you mean, by the \rest of us\ and I do not understa n d why a 13-year-old girl should get away with making a whole group, including her 18-year-old brother, miserable. Ususa 11 y teen-agers are quite capable of telling off another, thoroughly obnoxious teen. However, the girl is young and I suggest you try to talk to her and make her under- stand she is making others dis- like her. If this doesn't work, and she continues to be dis- agreeable, ALL of you shou 1 d give her the \silent treat- ment.\ Nq one likes to be thor- oughly ignored and this might wake her up. Dear Mrs. Ricker: I am a 17-yeaf-old girl and I am very mature for my age. I'm very beautiful, have a per- fect figure and I'm quite pop- ular with some people. M y problem is,, some others think I am conceited but I'm not. Can you please help me? PERFECT. BUT NOT CONCEITED Dear Perfect (?)^ • A girl who thinks she is beau- tiful and signs her letter \per- fect\ is, in my opinion, a very conceited person. So, you see, even in your short letter you gave \me the same impression you have given others. While it is not wise to be too self - cri- tical, my advice is to stop thinking of yourself as perfect. You are not perfect — and nei- ther is anyone else on this earth! Dear Mrs. Ricker: I am the mother of te^en-age children and we all enjoy your, column very much. My 13-year- old son used to ask me ques- tions about the facts of life when he was younger, and I al- ways answered them as well as I could. Now he seems embar- rassed to discuss this type of thing with me and his father is unable to talk to him. Is there any book you can recommend that would be help- ful to a boy of my son's age? I will be watching your c o 1- umn for your answer which I hope to see before too long. Please keep up -your good ad- vice to teen-agers and their parents. Thank you. ONE OF YQUR MANY READERS, Dear Reader: I can recommend an excel- lent book for your 13-year-old son — \The Boy's Book of Phy- sical Fitness\ by Hal G Veriti- es, It is published by the Asso- ciation Press, 29i Broadw a y , New York, N.Y. The price is $1.95. •<. '\ . If your local book stores do not have it they can order it for, you or you can order it direct from the publishers. This book is the finest I have seen on this particular subject, and Her Refusal to Go Steady Causes One - Boy Protest Dear Mrs. Rocker: I am 15, and I like a boy who is the same age. The prob- lem is about going steady. He keeps calling and telling me how much he loves me and he says he won't go oir of the house (except to school) unless I go steady with him. I know he doesn't go out ex- cept to school because he lives next door to us. When I see his parents and ask how he is, they say he is sick because be does not get out in the fresh air often enough. They won't let me go in to see him unless I) agree to go steady with him. T have told hup he is acting ake a baby and 15 is actually too young to go steady. I'm beginning to feel it's all my fault because he. is sick and I don't know what to do. Please answer soon. LORI Dear Lori: The boy is not.very \sick\ if he goes to school. Even if he was, it is not your fault and it is not caused by lack of fresh air. Perhaps this is his way of staging a one - boy protest against you because you won't go steady with him. If so, it certainly shows how very im- mature he is and apparently his parents are not much wis- er. My advice? Don't trj to see him, don't discuss going steady with him if he phones and stop blaming yourself for his hibernation. His parents prob- ably want him to stop moping around the house, but they should straighten him out. If they can't do it, he should have some professional help. What- ever happens, don't, change your mind about going steady —especially with a boy who is so far off the track. Dear Mrs. Ricker: I am a boy in my mid - teens. My problern is about talking to girls. I have no problem talking to boys. In fact, I am fair 1 y popular with them. When I try to talk to girls nothing comes out and I freeze up. When I try to think of something to say my mind goes blank I attend an all - boy school and this doesn't help the situation. I don't understand why it's so hard for me to talk to girls. Will you please help me? DAN Dear Dan: Many teen-age boys and girls write to me about being too shy to talk to members of the opposite sex. So, you see, yours is quite a common teen prob- lem. First of all, it is importa n t for youngsters to leal'.ze the op- posite sex is made up or ordin- ary individuals muen like them- selves. 'They may snem glamor- ous and beyond reach, and they may have different interests. However, they usualy have some of the same dreams, ideals, ambitions, longings, fears, faults and problems as the shy ones.'They simply have learned to live with them a little, bettei and do not s h o w their feelings. I have a free leaflet, Con- versation Clues for the Teen - Agers\ which will > help shy teens. Please enclose a stamp- ed self - addressed envelope with your, request for the leaf- let. Mail to Dorothy Ricker in care of this newspaper. (Released by Thei Regist e r and Tribune Syndicate, 1967). CATV Provides Superior Reception - By Edmnnd Harmer General Manager Antenna Systems, Corp. (From NCTA Files) Our comoany has already started to rebuild, the CAW system in Massena' to provide 10 channels of TV for all the residents of the Village. Be- cause Cable Television has be- come so important,to commun- ities such as ours, I thousht Massena residents would be in- terested in some facts about CATV. What it is; what it is not — .CATV is a superior televis i o n reception service. A CATV system uses a mas- ter antenna and connecting ca- ble to provide subscribing members of the public with clear TV reception and a wid- er . choice of television signals'. Each CATV subscriber has his own TV set connected to t h e master antenna cable .instead of using a home antenna, such as a built - in antenna, rabbit- ear or roof-top antenna. A CATV system is not broadcast service, television station, such as because it does not make 1 use of the air waves — it does not broadcast. It is not a common carrier service, because it is not a pub- lic utility nature; i.e., it is not a \necessity\ such as power, light and telephone services. Furthermore, CATV is not pay-TV. In pay - TV a sub- scriber is expected to purchase programs individually on a pay- as-you-see basis. A CATV sub- scriber pays a small monthly service charge which remai n s constant regardless of the num- ber of viewing hours he may enjoy. How and why it came into being — When television start- ed, stations developed first in big cities where they reached a large population. The great ma- jority of communities did not have their own local TV sta- tion. These thousands of towns were not — and most are still not — large enough to provide a local station. Without a lo- cal station, a TV set owner had tfl^get his TV viewing from a station in some nearby large city. But many communities were in mountain valleys or far away from a TV station and set owners could get only poor reception or none at all. It was to these communities that CATV first came. During 1949, the initial steps were .undertaken to bring tele- vision to a town located far from a television station. Eag J er to bring the benefits^of TV to Astoria, Oregon, a group of engineers found the solution: a community - wide master an- tenna television system. In the following year-com- Lansford, Pa. During the years that have I believe it will help any young mercial CATV was born - in followed, the public's desire for better and more TV service has brought CATV into Metropoli- tan areas already served by one or more TV stations. Today there are more than 2,200 com- munity antenna systems i n the United States serving more than 6 million people. A few points about TV signals must be explained to und e r - stand why CATV systems came into being to serve the public interest in their communities. Radio signals tend to follow the curvature of the earth. As a re,sult they can be heard easily bver great distances. Not so television signals. Televis i on signals travel in a straight line as does a beam of light. After broadcast, the signals contin- ue into space as the earth's sur- face curves and falls away underneath them. The farther yoiTare from a TV station, the rfbre troublesome and expen- sive become your reception problems. Ordinary house - top antennas in this \fringe\ area are frequently unsatisfacto r y . They do not reach high enough. By placing specially desig n e d antennas on a tower, the CATV system can reach the stro n g signals. Because of distance and ter- rain factors, high btjilding or electrical interference, mil- lions of Americans are limited in the number of clear televi- sion signals available for their TV viewing. Through CATV they are given the'same oppor- tunity to. select from a variety of TV signals as people living in more ideal reception areas. How it works — The CATV operator serves his community with the best reception on as many channels as possible. To do this, the proper antenna location must be found. The CATV operator is able to search, with electronic inst r u- ments, for the place near town where master antenna recep- tion is best. In this manner, all subscribers receive pictures from the best receiving point. The master antenna syst e m is mounted on a tower. Tele- vision, signals are \picked off the air at the tower site. Some- Dr. Omer A. Poirier ANNOUNCES THE OPENING OF THE PRACTICE OF GENERAL MEDICINE In Association With: Dr. Dobies and Dr. Rahdell * at: Doctor's Clinic Corner of E. Orvis & Panker Ave. * Hours: By Appointment * Open: Monday-Wednesday-Friday 10:30 a.m. - 12:00; 1:30 p.m. 5:00 6:30 p.m. - 9:00; Thursday 10:30 a.m. - 12; 1:30 p.m. - 5:00 Tuesday (Day Off) times CATV operators ren long distance microwave serv- ice for the reception of addi- tional TV signals not available at the antenna location. Equip- ment at the master ante n n a sfrengtherislhe signal arid feeds it into miles of a special cable. The cable is covered with cost- ly protective materials to pre- vent electrical interference These cables, known as coaxia cables, are usually attached to electric power or utility com pany poles, The CATV operator supplies the cable and rents the use of the poles. The CATV operator makes sure the. signal remains strong on its journey through town. Just as a long distance pi p e- line needs many pumping sta- tions, so a CATV system needs many \amplifiers\ along the cable. The subscriber livi n g farthest from the master an- tenna then gets a strong, even signal eqUal in quality to that received by the nearest sub- scriber. Each home gets the CATV service by an individual cable connection to the main coaxial cable. In the same man- ner, CATV systems serve many hospitals, hotels, apart m e n t houses, motels, schools and col- leges. A public service - The CATV operator is engaged in perform- ing a truly helpful service to subscribing members of the public: clear reception and a wider choice of television s i g- nals. He provides the lowe s t cost method by which a televi- sion set owner can enjoy the highest quality reception from a variety of television stations. In short, he offers the set own- er a way to obtain maxim u m value from his television r e - ceiver. , CATV systems also make available the signals of TV sta-| tions which broadcast in color. Good quality of color via CATV reception is generally unsur- passed. The clarity of color re- ception is a CATV feature which many subscribers find most attractive of the vari e d CATV services. In some localities CATV sys- tems^ also make use cf unused channel capacity to provide a time and weather informati o n service. Many CATV syst ems also offer to their subscribers a choice of FM radio signals. In addition to providing a fine television and FM radio recep- tion service for subscribing members of the public, a CATV system is in many ways a boon to the local economy. By mak- ing more television chann e 1 s available, the advent of a CATV system usually creates a de- mand for more television sets and thus creates a wider base for the servicing of sets. As a local business, a CATV system pumps new econom i c life blood ipto the community; CATV operators pay inc o m e taxes, property taxes, business taxes, and salaries which are of great benefit to the com- munity. The CATV system al- so has operating expenses for local services suc^i as electri- city, stationery, water, fu e 1, gasoline, vertising tires, etc. insurance, amounting ad- to many thousands of dollars an- nually. In addition, CATV oper- ators have taken active roles in civic organizations and charity drives, and\ otherwise contri or town. 1 A satisfied employe is one who has not yet had an opportunity to compare notes with other people in the office. * • * The \taxi stand\ sign down the street means just what it says: you stand, and stand, and stand .... * * * , Our Girl Friday goes to ~ church at least twice every Sunday to better acquaint herself with the new hints. (Newspaper Enterprise Assn.) Thursday, Dec. 14, 1967 Massena, N. Y. Observer 11 Dr. Lamb, Potsdam State, Continues Instruction, Social Studies Curriculum Dr. Mildred L. Lamb, pro- fessor of education at The State University College at Potsdam, is filiiner a kev role in developing understanding among educators of the social studies curriculum in use this year in school wsrems through out New York State. AdoDted by the State Educa- tion npDartmpnt. the new cur- riculum was the stibiect of a unicme workshon for educators — the only one of its kind in the state — held this summer at Potsdam under,the direction of Dr. W. Charles Lahey, oro- fessor of history, and Mrs. Lamb. Mrs. Lamb's role in develop- ing effective methods of learn- ing within the framework of the new curriculum will take her to 22 schools in 20 school districts by the end of Febru- ary. More than 700 teachers and administrators concerned with social studies will be in- volved in her conference pro- gram. September marked the be- ginning of Mrs. Lamb's educa- tional tour with a visit to St. ordinators within the district.' The Newburgh visit lasted two days, although most of her, oth- er consulting is completed within one day. ,., ,„ In addition to the schoflft, mentioned, the Potsdam edu- cator has held conferences or will meet in the immediate'fii- ture with personnel in school systems in Boonville, Black River, Theresa, Potsda'ni, Rush-Henrietta, Sherbu me\ '\- Earlville, Clinton, Mexico and Morristown. Also, West Islip, Pulaski,. Colton - Pierrepont, Tupper Lake, Rome and Latham. Dr. Lamb joined the Potsdam' faculty in 1965. A graduate of where she earned bachelor's, and master's degrees in. ele- mentary education, she re- ceived the doctorate degree in- teacher education from Colum- bia University Teachers CQI-\ lege. QUICK QUIZ Q — What is the meaning of' I \psychedelic\? ' Agnes School, Lake Placid. She tlieword consulted with 20 teachers A ~ tt 1S f fairly recent la- there, and will conclude her ™ntion and may be,loosely Fb ft ' |$ V^L3£3K£ visits in February after con- ferences with educators m pan ding.» it is used to Sd l° ^5 5t -fn m r S 3 ™ 61 ' t° such drugs as LSD, ates-Chili and. Penfield. j uana and the like, which-al- Typical of her activities dur- legedly possess such proper- ing her school visits is the ties. - Q — Which two members of the pine family are not evep- greens? A—The larch and the bald cypress, which shed the&r schedule followed last month, during a visit to three schools, I in Newburgh. She first confer- red for several hours with the social, studies supervisor for kindergarten through senior --,«•,•_ ,„=„* „ high school, and the supervisor needles m wmter - of elementary social studies. Q—What opera has been The remainder of Mrs. Lamb's called the \grand daddy of; visit was occupied with con- musical comedy\? • ; sultations with social studies, A—\The Beggars' Opera\ instructors, elementary school by John Gay. .-._:_.\ principals and curriculum CO-I (Newspaper Enterprise Association! Some In and Try Us These Are Our Regular Prices $15 Coldwave 6.50^ And $9.50 •fc Evening Appointments Taken Wash & Set $2.00 Hair Cuts . . . $1.00 DICK'S Beauty Shoppe 12 Ma I by Ave. Massena Appointments Taken Call 769-5273 Cyclattien Poinsetta •ft Christinas Corsages ft Mums ft Centerpieces ft Cut Flowers ft Holly & Mistletoe COURCELLE'S FLOWER SHOP 179 Main St. Ph. 9-9636 We wire Flowers Anywhere 'Redi Reference\ To Reliable, Local Businesses The Massena Observer BUSINESS DIRECTORY A Quick, Handy Reference To Reliable Business Establishments * FLORISTS PLUMBING HEATING * ROOFING Klowers For All Occasions Complete Line of CUT Flowers-Design Work VERVILLE'S 7L0RIST !35 E. 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