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.•u»~SMu...£- .-,- -\..I »,.->~ ^Wt-.i.4»SS..aWiM»BSW»' « I c A FAMILY ALII VOLUME I. to Jbeintte, Siteato, iPodtg, 0Ltt%mit 1rt& f^eayeranc?, °M<?toi% of ^nggjng Hbetitg, Jtotip aiii) iSewgife £nicUigtae«, &e, &•*. NUMBER 14. BY S. C. CLISBE, & A. T. BOYNTON. M'GRAWVILLE, CORTLAND COUNTY, N. Y. NOVEMBER 11, 1847\ t .( 3 J Jin »v- ory and iner <; -1 r .wf \'.'I ft m ^:- Mi A HINT TO HUSBANDS; OR, A WIDOWER'S BEQUEST, \ The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church.—- Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.\ .Now. Christ is the governor, guide, defence, comforter, light and very life,of the church, and such, according to the direction of the apostle, shouid'the husband be to his wife. The world has particularly fallen into the errnr of considering the marriage covenant more binding upon the woman than the man,— Numberless negligences and inattentions are tolerated in him which would be deem- ed culpable in a woman. I do not now speak of immoralities. I presume there is but one opinion relative to them. But I refer to those daily, almost hourly, recur- ring circumstonees,which call for little sac- rifices of personal inclination or conveni- ence, or exhibitions of interest and con- sideration, whose omissions only renders them observable. A wife, palpably wan- ting in these, would be deemed an anoma- ly ; but their absence in the husband is rather admitted than condemned, The with my absence. Sometimes, too, I would invite a female acquaintance to visit her, to prevent her from being lonesome ; and then I would experience no regret for hav- ing left her, supposing my place supplied. Strange that 1 should have possessed so little discernment as to think, that the ad- ditional effort required to entertain an un- interesting guest, would enable her the bet- ter to jendure her husband's absence ! How wearisome must have proved the task of hospitality! Once I signified my intention of sending company to amuse her until my return from a shooting excursion, and, although her reply at the time suggested no idea to me but her preference of solitude, I have since deciphered its meaning differently. \Do you imagine,\ she said, faintly smi- ling, ''that any society can compensate for the loss of yours?\ She generally inquired at evening how I spent the day, and evinced an interest m whatever had occurred to me. My an- swers were usually slight and unsatisfacto- ry, for I was never communicative on. triv- ual subjects, and did not reflect long enough on her questions to understand, that the de- tails were merely desirable, because con- nected with her husband. She gradually ceased her interrogatories, and as it never occurred to my mind to question her, rela- world does not expect them from him.— tive to the occupations that beguiled her The Bible teaches us, however, that their obligations are equal. \ She that is mar- ried careth for the things of the world how she may please her husband.\ \ He that is married careth for the things of the world how he may please his wife.\ One announcement is not more explicit or re- strictive than the other. But, alas! for the ignorance and perversity of human na. ture, we sometimes see men so nervously fearful of being considered uxorious, that tbey withhold from their wives the common oourtesies extended to other females, and publicly affect indifference, and disclaim any particular solicitude about them.— onely hours, we knew but little of each other's employments when separated. I was, at the time of my marriage, prac- tising law in the country court, but, having fusion. Yet, that woman was not a nig- gard, but capable of generosity proportion- ed to his own, when real objects of charity werepresented to her notice. Had she un- derstood her husband's character be:ter, and possessed more discriminating tact, she might eventually have succeeded in tern- pering his prodigality, without Wounding his feelings or provoking a harsh judgment for her own moderation. This is but one of many instances of per- petual occurrence. Whatever militates against the happiness of the being, whose destiny is committed to our guardianship, is of moment, however trifling, in itself and our estimation, the circumstances may ap- pear. By a parity of reasoning, whatever contributes to preserve the sunshine of the spirit, becomes important. Different dispo- sitions require different treatment, in order to secure either improvement or felicity ; hence arises the necessity of acquaintance with the moral constitution of our home as- sociates. If it was a weakness in Alice to doubt her husband's love, because its de velopements were unlike her preconceived idea of what they should be, it ought to have been his greatest pleasure, as it was his highest earthly interest,, to convince her of the wrong she did his heart, and thus restore to her aching breast its confidence and tranquility together. Rut [ seemed wrapt in a most inconceivable heedlessness. Probably, for a while after the intimation she had given of her distrust, my manner towards her was more tender, for she cer- tainly grew more cheerful; but her pen- They seem to regard any demonstrations! infallible betrayer of the state of the feel of feeling, when the wife is its object as ings, sounded lower,and had taken a mourn few cases and little business of importance J siveness soon returned. I proposed anoth to transact, my professional engagements i er visit to her father's, imagining change would certainly haveadmitted of my spend- | of air might benefit her. She passiveTy ing fewer intervals from home; yet I often ; yielded, but expressed no pleasure at the made a trifling plea suffice to leave her. I anticipation. Unexpected engagements wonder now that consideration for Alice . frustrated the design, and I have since thot' had so little hold on my mind. As months that she apprehended being questioned by went by in the same manner, varied only her mother relative to her dejection, and by a transient visit to or from our relatives, | therefore was not grieved by the disappoint- I began to observe that mv wife was not so men!. After this my solicitude increased, gay \as lormerly. Her voice, that almost j for her health evidently declined, affected ' \ \ \ \ by her spirits, and I spent much of my lime at home. We rode, walked and read unmanly. I was one of this description. My friends had given me a reputation for great self- control, and I was supposed to be capable of concealing all my emotions, tho' none who knew me well, doubted the strength of my affections. I desired to sustain this equivocal reputation, as well as to avoid the railery generally bestowed on a newly- married man for his fondness for his wife's • society, so forgetful other feeling; and, imagining her confidence in my attach- ment too strong to be shaken by trifling causes, I frequently absented myself from Alice for hours together, and spent my time with my bachelor acquaintances. We jode, gunned, fished, walked or talked,and, •as I was regarded as the life of every cir- cle, I often returned to my own fireside wearied of animation, and but little dispo- sed to exert my exhausted powers of con- versation to interest my wife, though lean most justly assert I always returned to her with heartfelt delight. When I look back upon that period, I feel assused that she attributed the occasional listlessness of my manner to her inability to charm me, and imagined that the time spent in her society alone was dull to me. Alas ! that I should have given her so much reason for such thoughts ! There were moments indeed, when a suspicion of her loneliness would come across my mind, brought as she had been, to a strange neighborhood, away from all her relatives, afier residing in a large family, and then I wouid remain at home an entire day, and devote myself to her entertainment. Nor did she require much effort on my part to make her happy. To sit beside me, engaged with her_ needle, while I perused alone some entertaining or instructive book, to second my attempt to converse when I seemed disposed to make one, or to read herself, or attend to her do- mestic duties when I wrote or mused, con- tented her. If I was with her she was never solitary, and at that period never sad. I now wonder at my blindness, when I retrospect the brief date' of my married life. So carefully and minutely have I since pondered its events, that my concep- tions of _ all her feelings seem to have be- C u°T u 1Vl | l y di ^nct. I can well recall the light that would illumine her soft eyes when I answered negatively to the ser- vant's interrogation, relative to bringing out my horse, and the cheerful and playful temper which made the hpurs passed at home, fly so swiftly. I should have told her this, but 1 did not. I can also recol- lect that, after a day's absence, I frequent- ly found her spiritless and melancholly on my return, but the slightest exertion I,made was always effectual so that I soon forgot her pensiveness; and, as she invariably answered no, to the question usually pro- posed ere I sot out on an excursion, wheth. •or she had any objection to my going, never connected her occasional sadnes ful tone. TFhen silent, there was an ex-, together, and Alice recovered her vivacity pression of deep thoughtlessness about her and was happy. The autumn and winter usually placid brow.\ [ felt uneasy, and, flew by, the most delightful I had ever one morning especially manifested my coii-, known, perhaps the most delightful she cern more tenderly than I had done before. | had ever known. Spring brought an ac- I was surprised and startled to see the tears cession of company to the neighborhood.— fill her eyes, and inquired their cause with!I was rallied on my fondness for retire increasing earnestness. ] ment and the society of my wife, and again \ Your affection makes me weep,\ she • Alice was left to her solitary communings, said, when sufficiently composed to speak ; j I persuaded her to visit, which she was \ It removes the suspicion I have been en-! always willing to do if I was with her, but tertaining of its existence.\ I she never cared to go without me. In re \ A strange suspicion, truly,\ I playfully ply to a request from her to accompany her replied. \ So your old doubts of my sincer-' somewhere that I had previously urged ity are returning?\ .her to visit, I one day jestingly remarked, \ No\ she said, with her wonted spright- that she must not expect me to be continu- liness of manner, \ I do not suspect your' ally beside her. The tears started to her sincerity, for you never make professions' eyes immediately. I felt annoyed. I was now.' \ It, is because I regard them as superflu- ous, then. You know I love you, Alice.\ \ How should I ever know it when you never tell me so ?\ she asked, sportively. \ Do not mv' actions sufficiently prove it ?\ I enquired. With her views of love and its evidences in excellent spirits myself, and had no sym pathy with a dejection for which I saw no cause. \Whence those tears, Alice ?\ I asked, with more impatience than tenderness. \they came unbidden,\ .she answered, •endeavoring to check them. Then do not entertain them, love.— and mine at this present time, she might j They spoil those bright eyes. No man justly have answered no ; but she evaded any direct response, and soon after changed the subject. The few words she uttered, however, ought to have enlightened my mind relative to the cause of her depression; but I did not reflect upon them, and pursued my previous course. As I write confessed, ly, and entirely for the benefit of married men, I must here remark, that whoever de- sires to ensure happiness in the conjugal relation, ought to study the peculiar char- acteristics of those to whom they are united and accommodate their deportment accord- ingly. I do not wish to be understood as recommending the toleration of flagrant faults, although I believe even these may be corrected by judicious kindness, Where mutual affection exists. But there are some weaknesses attached to all of human origin, which should be treated with indulgence and consideration. Even virtues, if not properly modified, may disagreeably con- flict so as to create uneasiness. To make my meaning plain by illustration, I will add, that I have seen a man liberal even to a degree of prodigality, united to a woman, whose early education had rendered her cautious and economical in all her expen- ditures, even to excess. His love manifes- ting itself characteristically, frequently in- duced him to lavish on her the most Costly gifts. Devoid herself, of taste for suoh magnificance, instead of receiving his dona- tions in the spirit in which they were be- stowed, and thus evidencing her apprecia- tion of his affection, she would take them | with a grave and almost reproving manner, and inopportunely animadvert on the folly °f such extravagance. Her husband certainly must have felt both disappointed and indignant, and reali- zed a keener consciousness of her parsimo- ny and ungraciousness, than his own pro- thinks his wife handsome in tears.\ \He should, then, if they are a proof of her love for him,\ she said with more spirit than she was wont to display, and her tone evinced how deeply j she was wounded. \He asks less distressing proof,\ I gaily replied, and my voice sourided even to my- self discordant with the sadness of hers ; \and now good-by, for awhile. We part friends, do we not, Alice V She bowed assenthigly, without raising her tearful eyes, and I left her, I doubt not to weep bitterly. I returned earlier than she expected me. A flush of pleasure brightened her cheeks as she rose to greet me,, but some unpleasant remembrance seemed to come back, upon her, and I thought her salutation cold. How could it have been otherwise, when I had so heartlessly repelled her expressions of af- fection, and, with the hum of a mirthful tune upon my lips, so carelessly left her to a day of solitude and tears ? I attempted to engage her in conversa^ tion, but her replies, although polite and respectful, were brief, and her tones meas- ured. I thought her offended .without suffi- cient reason, and therefore, I grew stern and indifferent. I felt, when it was too late to rectify the error, that she imagined her exhibitions of attachment annoyed me, and hence determined to repress them. Thus, were her emotions driven in upon her heart, to congeal there. i Days and weeks elapsed without any explanation. 1 was grave and taciturn at home, and frequently absented myself for the whole day, and when I did not, spent the hours in the fields or garden, generally when in the house, selecting the apartment in which my wife did not happen to be.— An acquaintance, of whose society I was fond, occasionally visited 1 me, and he and I amused ourselves as we chose, without any reference to the entertainment of Al- ice. She neither sought nor avoided my presence, performed her customary avoca- tions, and was quietly attentive to my com- fort and wishes as usual.' She'looked very sad and pale, but her demeanor'was calm and self possessed.. Her hours must have passed more solitary than ever. One even- ing, an evening I shall never forget, al- though the remembrance brings anything but remorse and wo, we were sitting alone together. The rain had been falling all day, and I had occupied myself with wrK ting nearly the whole time. The gather- ing darkness obliged me to forego my em- ployment until candlelight, and, folding my arms on my breast, I sat gazing into the fire. There had been no quarrel between myself and Alice, and the common-place remarks about the weather, roads, etc. etc. had occasionally varied the silence of the hours. She had been sewing, but \had put up her work - I did not notice her ap- pearance, but heard her sigh frequently. At length she arose from her seat, came behind me, and, flinging back my hair, clasped her hands upon my forehead. I felt that she considered herself in error, and wished to call forth some acknowl- edgement on my part, by this tacit move- ment towards former confidence. I was in a wayward humor. She stood thus some moments, but 1 took no notice ; and presently said—\Shall we have candles ? I want to finish writing ?\ She rang the bell and resumed her seat. What would I now give to recall that evening ? Those, dear hands never again pressed my brow ! She retired soon after, observing that she was indisposed, and the next morning was in a high state of deliri- um. A messenger was dispatched for her parents, and for many weeks they watched with me beside her bed, expecting every day to see her gentle spirit take its flight Very slowly and gradually she grew better, and her anxious mother insisted on taking her home with her. Alice made no objection, and her physician recommen ded a change of scene and her native air. Strange as it must appear to the reader, that I should have been so blind. I must inform him that I never, for a single mo- ment, connected the illness of my wife with my own demeanor. I had no sense of personal condemnation. I knew that I loved Alice more than my life, and was wholly unconscious of being other than a kind, indulgent and affectionate, husband. I had, it is true, been a'little vexed by her suspicions of my af;ta-chment,but her recent danger had banished from my heart every feeling unallied with pure tenderness, was too wretched to affect stoicism, and her parents believed me, what I believed myself, the most devoted of husbands.' They compared me with others whom they knew, and they gained by the contrast. I accompanied my wife to her father's, and remained With her several days. My attention to her was unremitting, and when I bade her farewell, intending to return in a short time, her recovered cheerfulness made me hope that she was happy, and would soon be well. I ought to have had some explanation with her ere we parted ; for, although I doubt not my devotion had proved her best medicine, and brought back those beaming smiles, which I imag- ined then were called forth by the scenes of her early years, the wound in her heart was dressed without being first probed; the dart was, therefore, unextracted, and left to corrode within. Hence, reflection only in- flamed her suffering. At the moment of saying \ adieu,\ she trembled excessively, but, as she did not shed tears, nor express any desire for me to defer my departure, 1 attributed her agitation to momentary ner- vousness, and thinking I left her secure, in tranquility, pursued my journey;, but I af- IMQ.§<OilLLAIN]g©{y)©a The Bank of England. The B.ank of England is an immense strupture, covering .five acres of ground, having no windows in either jpf its fronts, but reeeiying light from above, or from its courts. It is open for business at nine in the morning, and continues open until five in the afternoon—employing during these hours between nine hundred and one thous sand persons. At seven o'clock in the evening, a detachment of soldiers are marched from the Tower into the bank, where they mount guard until seven o'clock the next morning. The bank has a capital of eighteen mill- ions sterling, and is managed by govern- ors, &c. Its notes are never resissued by the bank, after, being presented for pay- ment. They may continue in circulation for any time, and pass from one bank to another ; but when presented to the bank for specie, the name of the person present, ing must be endorsed with his residence ; then after a careful examination, the note is paid and cancelled. The printing, binding, &c, required by the bank and its branches, are done within the building by the most approved meth- ods. The steam-presses and all the ma- chinery are the best that can be obtained in England or Scotland. So admirably arranged is every, thing, from the engine-room to the \back par- lor,\ that every room resembles a beauti- ful toy shop. No \stroker or engine \driver\ is required to attend the fire or look after the engine during the day. The fire is fed in the same manner that wheat is ground. In the morning a sufficient supply is put into the \hopper\ and thaj, sends a regular supply into the grates of stoves, and nothing farther is required.— The water is supplied in the same way ; and should there be any want of water, by accident or otherwise, an alarm is sounded by a whistle. Each note is printed on what is called one sheet of paper ; the lowest denomina- tion is five pounds, the highest one thou, sand. The paper is first counted to those whose duty it is to \wet it down,\ This is done by a steam process- After the paper is in a proper state to be worked, it is lock- ed up in boxes, and sent to an officer, who re-counts it. It is then counted again in parcels of one hundred sheets, and put in- to boxes, which are locked and placed in a sliding case ready for the pressmen, who are at work above. These are drawn up and printed, and returned in the same man- ner ; every sheet worked registers itself, and it is as well known in the room below, what number A. B. is printing above, as by himself. If, by accident, A. B. \spoils a sheet,\ it must be marked as such, and every particle of the spoiled sheet set down, Every note or bill passes through the hands of two sets of pressmen. First, they are printed without the number and date.— Secondly, the number and date are added, when they are ready for the finishing touch, the signature of one of the cashiers. One of the most ingenious pieces of mechanism I have ever seen is that used to mark the number on each bill. There is no change of number by hand, but all is done by this machine, and by steam pow- er. When the bills have passed through the hands of the printers, they are sent to the drying room where they are again counted and dried ; theyare'then put up in con- venient packets, and sent to the cashier's room, for signature. Thence they go to the register's department, and from that office are brought back to the \treasury.\ Here they arelcept in fire-proof iron cases, which cover all sides of the r09m. The room itself is fire-proof, there being, only one thing that can burn, the counter' On one side of this* room the cases are filled with gold, tied up in bags, and on the oth- terwards learned that she wept much when er, bills in packages; convenient for the I had gone; and her Bible, which, since \paying tellers.\ There, are two 'large her recovery from that terrifying delerium, had been her constant companion, appeared her chief comforter Her friends believed her depression was the effect of debility ; and happily for their peace, were never better informed. (To be concluded next week.) I •• 11111111 . —— Poetic Tvn .—The fate of genius in tho poetic line} in capital!., verified by Hood, in the follow- ing :— ',' What in the modern poet's fate 1 To writL his thoughts upon a slate—- The critic spits on what he's done, Then gives a wipe—and all is gone.\ at a low rafe,bu£ soim. become \higher graduates, 5 ' with an increase salary in the; bank, or are transferred |o >ne o/ ,its: branches, The plan of personal security is frequently observed as in the llnitedL States ; but I was informed there was an institution called the \guarantee fund,\ by. which an individual, paying so jmueh a. month,, becomes a-member, and this insti- tution is security for its- memhers_-thus se. curing the bank against loss, or the painful alternative of calling on personal security in case of mal-administration. In one of the room's .ninety-seven clerks are employed, whose business it is to ex- amine the notes by register ; and so } mi- nute and accurate is the concern that it is/ known in the bank What notes, are out, and who received them j and it is the practice of all bankers, in town or country, to take the number of each note before it is paid and to whom paid. This is a work of time, but it gives great security. In the bank there is a department called the weighing room. Here two gentlemen are employed weighing sovereigns by steam. The scales are so constructed as to drop the light coin on the left, the fujl weight on the right. Those that fall on the left are taken out pnd cirt by a ma- chine, and retuined to the local bank.or individual from which they came ;• |hey are then sold to the bank for bullion, So be * recoined. There are several families residing iff , the, bank, who have very comfortable ac- commodations. There is also a bank kitchen, as well as a bank parlor. This is for the accommodation of directors op doty who may wish a cup of coffee, or a lieef- sleak, &c. ' • ' How John Bull talks about Br. Jonathan. A writer in the Liverpool Albion thus*,. expresses his feelings, and,probably the- popular feelings in England : • \The account of the battles in Mexico 4 happily disturbed the? sad monotony of the' week, and the talk was, that the Yankees are full of pluck ; that they fought well; that they have a right to be proud of the. victory, and that we ought not to be angry at it; that they are our own flesh ane$ . blood ; that General Scott draws his line- ' age from the Land o'Qakes; that ilfajpr Reilly—oh I where is the 0 ?—needs no archeologist to Came the'home of his sires,- and that GeneraJ Worth-mgst,. of course, he the son of a \Britisher ;\ that the fight was a fair one, and that the result will be peace ; that our prejudices in this matter j , for we are blessed with an amiable selfish-', ness ; may mislead us\; that ell rightly considered,, there is nothing\tp ex-' cite regret in the presence of Yankees in' Mexico ; that they will carry with them, and retain there a higher civilisation; that will open up the vast latent resources oir the region, and create in the deserts of the kingdom a population to consume English manufactures!\ Tho New York Sun says : We learn by a paper brought by the Hibetuia, that an Abbe, in a oer tain part of Franco, had 'been irnprisoned and fined, for What this Correctional Tribunal calls \ immoral conduct. 1 ' This coiwiHted of the- ses duotion of Jurtij fomuloe, married and liftman iod. locks to each case, and the keys are kept by separate officers, so that both must 'be present before aily sum can be rfemoved.-r— I held in my hand while in. this r6om two millions sterting', all ready to be put ih cir- culation. . Each day from thirty to thirty-six'thou- sand bills are printed. The ink is made in the bank, and it is of such a peculiar composition that, by its effect, together with that of the high-sized paper ? the \blankets\ used on the presses require to be washed by steam, at least Once a day. The high- est number of notes is 99,999. When the number is reached, they return to JVb. 1 ? with a new date. The pressmen and most of the machinists receive' £3 per Week ; the females in the binding and ruling rooms, from fifteen shillings to one pound per week. • \ ' ': The clerks,are' paid,good! salaries after they have been some- years In the service of'thd batik. They -commence; hbweve*, Wanted, One hundred and seventy-five young men of all shapes and sizes, fromthe^ tall, grace- ful dandy, with hair enough on his upp;er works to stuff a barber's cushion^ dow,»' to the little headed upstart. The object iar to form a Gaping Corps, to be in attendance 1 at the church doorson ,eac.h sabbath .before,,; the commencement of divine, service, to ^ stare at the females as they enter'jjtn.d make 1 delicate and gentlemenly remarks on their persons and dress. All who wish to pnlisf in. theabovecor.ps will .appear at the various) church doors next sabbath .morning, where they will be duly inspected-, $nd their names, personal appearance, &c;, &e. t registered, in a book kept for that purpose, and pub- lished in e, newspaper. To 1 prevent a gen- , eral rush, it will.be well to state that none \ will be enlisted w.ho possess n\qre than ordin- ary intellectual capacites. ..,-,.' Royal-iGandot. • • ';' George 11. being informed that art W»-f.j pudent printer was to'be jyanished, fqr.Jiav,,^ ing published a spurious king's speech' ,re-' plied that he hoped the ptfnishm'enf-would be of the mildest sort, because Dteliid reSa.! both, and as tar as he understood eithei* of them he liked the spurioinS s^edh b^ter-' rthan his own. \•'!'• ' '' ' ' RAV-A&ES OF FivBE.—Sevdft'thousand one hunded and forty emigrants have died ' in Canada'within three months o-f ttie-rijav lignant ship fever.— 'GentrqJ WftsHngtoni^ drt News' • ' ;.,,.,,. . ,: Tm WAOTSRVUCLE MuRD^K.^The trial of--I?** Cootridge for thes murder of JJJr.. Matthews, is postponed to Jah. ne^t. De- lias selected for his counsel • IJon» Geprge Evans of Gardiner, and, fc SfayeSjOfi Watesvillej ••••-• ^ >
